Stop looking for “the one,” says a University of Alberta professor

Today is an ordinary Wednesday for some, but for others – love is in the air.

But for those looking for that special match, it's worth stopping by.

This is according to Dr. Adam Galovan, Associate Professor of Human Ecology at the University of Alberta; it's a long subject, but what it explores is both simple and complex—love.

“When we look at it a little deeper, what we see is that if they're holding on to this idea, it's not something they're willing to put in the effort, if they're just hoping, that can be a problem. “Rather than saying, 'I have to work for this, I have to put some effort into the relationship,' love just pulls them out of the air,” she explained.

Galovan and his team conducted research on the idea of ​​love and how to find a soulmate, which is done by putting in the work and raising realistic expectations.

“We looked at what we call connection and there may be people who appear to be satisfied, but they're not very connected in their relationship and if you look at other things they say about their relationship, they're just satisfied. is not enough, you need to be more connected with your partner, a deeper sense of union,” he said.

She says research shows that instead of thriving couples try to build their relationships together, and that searching to “find the one” can make that a reality.

“Get to know people in different situations, not just one type of situation, and see how they react in different situations,” Galovan said. “If you feel like they're the kind of person you can relate to, you can get along and you just let things go and see how it goes.

“Don't worry too much about whether they're 'the one', just try to build a relationship and see how things go.”

Although inflation still plagues many Albertans, those predicting a significant hit to business appear to be ditching the cup this year, according to the Calgary Chamber of Commerce.

A recent Abacus poll of Canadians found that two-thirds of Canadian married couples celebrate Valentine's Day, up from last year.

It also shows that most men today prefer some kind of physical contact from their lover, while women prefer some kind words and acts of service.